Connection and Vulnerability
In a world so connected by those little devices we hold in our hands, our sense of connection is at an all-time low. I feel this so much that even when surrounded by so many people. In a room full of people, with sounds of laughter and conversations, the feeling of loneliness can be all-encompassing. This topic came up during my most recent session with my therapist. How can I find a deeper connection with the people in my life? And guess what she said. Be Vulnerable. If you've heard of Brené Brown, then you know, that to help build relationships with others you need to open up and be vulnerable. It is about getting out of our comfort zone and sharing our thoughts and feelings. "Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center of meaningful human experiences" - Brené Brown. Being vulnerable is an act of courage, which can be the reason why so many of us do our best to avoid it. It's sometimes easier to keep people at arm's length away. This reduces our chances of getting hurt, being judged, or being disappointed and it allows us to be in control. But in reality, all of these things, as 'safe' as they feel in the moment can all lead to detachment, loneliness, and depression. "Without vulnerability, there is no love, no belonging, and no joy." - Brené Brown What is life without love, belonging, and joy? With love, not just loving others but truly loving ourselves? Of belonging to a community, a family? And finding joy in the everyday moments? Easier said than done, I know. It's hard not feeling alone and isolated, especially when you're depressed. But it's important to try and take the first step in reaching out, even if it's to a therapist or friend. It could be as simple as saying 'Hi' or sending a meme. Easy right? So next time you think about someone, take a chance and send them a message! The result may just surprise you ;)
Reference: takingcharge.sch.umn.edu/daring-be-vulnerable-brene-brown